Dilemma Solved

One of my favorite blogs to read is Ree Drummond’s The Pioneer Woman.  I’ve posted recipes from Ree’s blog, I’ve entered her photography contests, and I laugh each time I read it.  Today, I read THIS post, and had an ah-ha moment.  Below I have quoted the first two paragraphs of her post.  This post made me so happy because I realized I was not the only mother who had this issue.

Right or wrong, I’m not one of those mothers who has a scorecard or chart where she keeps track of which of her children she has acknowledged lately in order to make sure she’s distributing her affections fairly and evenly. Throughout the course of my motherhood experience, I’ve always preferred to gush about my four individual children naturally and as the spirit moves me…not because some chart (which, as I said, doesn’t exist) tells me to.

Then again, I doubt many mothers have such a chart. I think we all generally endeavor to get through the day and make sure our kids are clothed and fed, that their basic needs are met, that their education is being tended to, and that they stay out of dangerous situations (see: ice skating on a frozen creek). We generally have little time to keep a scorecard of who’s received what from us, and when.

I am in total agreement with Ree.  I love all four of my daughters equally, and I could gush over any one of them at any time if put on the spot.  I try to be equal when I talk about the girls on my blog, in public, and to our friends and family.  I, however, am not perfect, nor do I claim to be.

I recently had it pointed out to me by a close family member – through another family member, that I don’t talk enough or as much about some of the girls versus the others. 

Quite frankly, I was ticked.  Seriously ticked. 

To me, it meant that my love for my girls was being questioned, and that is something I should NEVER have to deal with.  For a long time after I questioned myself every time I wrote a post about one daughter or another.  I shouldn’t have to edit myself to please others, and after a point I stopped doing so.

This blog is an outlet for me.  It’s a way for me to express my feelings, to keep our long-distance families updated about our activities, and to keep a record – much like a scrapbook – of our lives.  When I talk about one daughter or another it’s because she is the one I happen to be thinking about at the time.

My point is that it was so nice to see that there is another mother out there who knows she may not be gushing equally publicly, but who does behind the scenes.

So today, thank you, Ree, for helping me feel better about myself as a blogging mother. 

And to end my post – a picture of my FOUR gorgeous girls!

0 thoughts on “Dilemma Solved

  1. Well said Amy!! It’s hard when you have numerous children. I sometimes find myself questioning when I discuss my children as well. I love them all equally as you do, sometimes one is just funnier, happier, or being difficult more than the others and that is the one I “gush” or “talk” about at that moment! Thanks for this post I appreciate it as a mommy of many.

  2. Ok, read this through my email, then had to come online so i could post :o) Obviously I can’t keep my mouth shut…. go figure.
    Unless it is bothering your FOUR daughters when you post on your blog…… then its just stupid that someone else thinks they need to say something about it… I always read your blogs, and it’s never occurred to me if you post more about one of the girls than the others. And since we all know just how in tune I am with life. it must not happen, or else I would have noticed it, right????????? hehehe. Don’t mean to be rude, but i think your family member needs to mind their own beeswax. The people who konw and love you, already know how much you love ALL FOUR of your girls, and would NEVER question that!!!

  3. By the way, I am trying to figure out which Girl you post about more than the others and I am not solving the mystery, even when I try, so I guess, without a paper and pencil and making tally marks, it really isn’t that obvious!

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